An image is worth 1000 words. A date is worth 100 texts.
Updated: Oct 28, 2020
Some people have the challenge of dealing with a long distance relationship. Other couples might be living in the same neighborhood but they might as well be separated by an ocean! Why? Because most of their relationship consists of phone and texting conversations and very few dates in between.
Whether or not you live in the same city as your partner, it's best to spend as much time as possible in person to really evaluate if this person is right for you. If they live nearby and ask you out once a week, it will take a very long time to really get to know them. If you live in different cities but the person only arranges to meet every couple of months, it will take even more time and resources to get a real picture of the person.
Phone conversations do not allow you to see how a person will react in a stressful situation and will not help you see how they act around other people. You won't be able to see what angers or disappoints them. You won't know how they will treat you if you are in a situation where there is a disagreement or any decision needs to be made.
Texting conversations will give you even less insight into the person you are communicating with. They have extra time to respond to you, there are often misunderstandings due to lack of facial cues, and it's very difficult to give details on any given topic that is being discussed.
Long distance relationship or not, if you've been together for a few months and have only met in person a few times, it's time to stop seeking more dates with that person and accept that their level of interest is not high enough for a lasting relationship to flourish. Sometimes there are situations that create a real obstacle for a person to be available to meet more often, but you will be able to evaluate easily if the person truly can't see you or if it's their level of interest that is questionable.
So if you find yourself in a texting relationship, at least you won't have to feel guilty ending it by text!
Annie Chana Newman